Sexist violence is any violence that women suffer on account of their gender. It is rooted in hierarchical relationships, that place men above women, so that as a result, women have fewer rights and opportunities. It affects women all over the world and occurs in all spaces and areas, that is, it is structural: family, school, free time, sport, public transport, music, films, social networks, etc. However, most sexual abuse is carried out in safe spaces by people the victim knows, and is expressed in a variety of ways: insults, catcalls, contempt, fits of jealousy, emotional blackmail, groping, physical abuse, cyber bullying, rape…
What is sexist violence?
PREVENTIVE MEASURES TO AVOID SEXIST ASSAULTS
- Make people aware that in your bar or establishment no sexist atttudes will be tolerated and measures will be taken in the event of an assault.
- Training. All the staff in the bar or establishment must be familiar with the action procedure and protocol.
- Observe. While you are working, stay alert so that you can identify any harassment. Bear in mind that female workers can also be assaulted. Alcohol and other drugs are no justification for this at all.
- Be careful about the music and images in the advertising that you display in your bar.
Course of action in the event of sexist assault
- Approach the woman, introduce yourself and ask her if she needs help. It will be up to the woman herself to decide if she wants help or not.
- Listen with great empathy to what the woman who has been assaulted wants to say (her explanations, her needs…). Don’t question or judge what she tells you, or blame her. Respect her wishes and let her know that she is not alone.
- Help. If she wants help, go to a quiet place. Never leave her on her own. Provide her with information or accompany to look for help.
- Inform her about the helplines. Let the girl know that she can ask for help, not only if she wants to file a complaint but also if she doesn’t (female illegal immigrants have the same rights as anyone else). If she wants, you can call yourself.
- Rejection. Talk to the aggressor and make it quite clear that sexist attitudes will not be tolerated in bars; and take measures: throw the agressor out of the bar, turn on the lights, switch off the music, etc.
IN THE EVENT OF SERIOUS SEXUAL ASSAULT
- It is really important not to wash your clothes or body (mouth, genitals, other parts of the body…) until you go to a health centre, as this is how the removal of evidence can be avoided. In the event of an oral sexual assault, don’t drink or eat anything.
- Try and memorise information about the aggressor (what he was wearing, where he went to…).
RESOURCES AND PHONE NUMBERS
IF YOU ARE IN DANGER:
SOS DEIAK 112 (24 hours)
IF YOU WANT INFORMATION/SUPPORT:
SATEVI: 900 840 111 (24 hours)
Acción Social (Social Welfare): 943 481 400
Casa de las Mujeres de Donostia (San Sebastián Women’s Centre): 943 483 470